Forgiveness leads you to the path of healing and peace.

Who hasn't been hurt by the actions or words of another?

Perhaps a constant criticism when you growing up, being let down by family or your loved one, or maybe you have a traumatic experience that somehow scars deep within you.

Holding on to anger and resentment can be very painful, traumatic, and potentially harmful. 

As Stephen Hayes quoted," Unforgiveness is like being on a giant hook. Next to you on the hook is the person who has hurt you. The hook is extremely painful. Whenever you go, so does the hook and so does the offender. The only way you can get off the hook is if you allow the offender off first. The cost of not allowing the offender off the hook, is perhaps, a lifetime of Unhappiness."

Studies and research have shown that forgiving others produces strong psychological benefits for our mental health. Outcomes of it will be reducing anxiety, depression, and any major mental disorder, as well as increasing our physical well be being.

Before we get deeper... 

FORGIVENESS can be defined as a freely made choice to give up revenge, resentment, or harsh judgment toward anything that causes you to hurt, and to strive to respond with generosity, compassion, and kindness toward the person or situation. 

Many people come to the misconception about what forgiveness means. Forgiveness is an action within our control. It is also a process, Making a decision not to let what happened to lead to a trace of bitterness. It takes time to emotionally work through an offense. To some extent, it takes a longer time to deal with those feelings. Nevertheless, we are a human full of emotions.

Forgiveness doesn't mean you minimize the hurt you felt. It doesn't excuse or justify behavior or action, it does the opposite. it's an acknowledgment that you present on for what you feel at that time. And despite what happen you are choosing to forgive. You no longer let the person nor the action have power over you.

Forgiveness leads you down the path of healing and peace.

Understanding that forgiveness is necessary for you is a start. By practicing it, will helps you to work on the positive. Recognizing that each individual is unique, special, and irreplaceable. 

Having compassion for yourself with addressing your pain is important. you may not be like the pain that you are in, because you are afraid of what you might find in the process. Find the meaning of forgiveness, not to diminish or say that you'll be okay. Address the woundedness in yourself recognized the feeling, and know that everything happened for a reason 

I said before we are humans full of emotion, so every so often pride and power can weaken your efforts to forgive, by making you hang onto the resentment. Try to remain on your stance by remembering that yes you're hurt but you choose to forgive, to let it go, and be a bigger person.

Forgiveness is a process that takes time, patience, and determination, Try not to be harsh to yourself, but be gentle and foster a sense of quiet within, an inner acceptance and forgiving of yourself. 

Develop courage and patience within you in this journey, Practice bearing small slights against you without lashing out, you give a gift to everyone- not only to the other person but to everyone whom that person may harm you in the future. Because you help end the cycle of inflicting pain on others.